This is an e-mail I sent to my mother at 02.37 am, 5 days after my baby was born.
From: Mutaleni Nadimi
Date: 7 March 2013 02:37
Subject: The best
To: Sustjie Mbumba
You are the best mummy I could ever wish for.
Thank you for all that you've ever done and continue to do for me. It is
such a gift that you have been with us at the birth of all of our
children, Ruben and I are so grateful for your support and dedication in
helping us at these critical and memorable moments in their lives.
Every birth has been special and you have been there to remember them
with us. Your support, encouragement, loving attention and absolute
passion for my children have given me so much strength that has helped
me to birth them into this world.
Last Sunday was truly very incredible. I am still in shock at how
quickly and how well it went. This baby is one amazing kid! And I am one
proud mama for having such a gorgeous and healthy boy.
Thank you for the wonderful gifts - Ruben and I are both thrilled to be
spoilt by you! Somehow I have a hard time watching you spoil the
children - but I have no problem if you spoil me!
You and Papa, and Tate Houshang and Oma Carla, have been wonderful role
models to Ruben and I. It's because of you that we wanted a family of
our own... to raise children in a warm and loving home. Thanks for being
such an inspiration.
Mama I love you to bits!
Yours, always Mutaleni
Mama holding Maxwell just minutes after he was born.
Maxwell Nangolo Nadimi was born at home on Sunday 3 March 2013 at 14h37. He is a healthy boy weighing 3.8 kg and 55 cm long. Maxwell is our 3rd child after Naomi and Mila. Born on the 3.3.2013 at house number 3 - he has claimed 3 as his lucky number. He was born in the presence of his father and grandmother and delivered by our amazing midwife Raghilt Redecker. A swift and beautiful birth, we are all so very grateful for the way he entered into the world.
Nine months can feel like... forever. But before you know it time is slipping through your fingers and despite all the nausea, back ache, anxiety, fear, cravings, swollen feet, clothes not fitting, mood swings... well - you get my drift, you know you're going to miss it.
You know you're going to miss having an always portable-wrapped up-ready to go-baby in the belly. So you go to the cinema with your husband and watch Oscar nominated movies, you order all the books for your book club with good intentions to read along, you relish in decorating your home and drive into town "one last time" to select the baby gift registry and you even go to a party one night after your due date with plans to dance your baby into the world!
My daughters have been so patient. Naomi spoiled me with loving cards like the one above. She would dictate a message to her papa or to the art teacher and decorate the card with hearts. Towards the end I became... anxious. I was bored. I got just a little worried. And for the final three weeks I had cramps almost every evening. Mila and Naomi got eager to meet their little sibling. They were both very curious. I had big questions to answer.
Me at nine months pregnant - the night before delivery.
Finally. You stand there. With a life inside of you. Feeling larger than life! And after returning home from a night of dancing you ask your beloved to take a few photos. You have no idea.